What I Would Tell My 18 Year Old Self

What I Would Tell My 18 Year Old Self

WOW.

Time sure flies by.

It’s been seven years since I walked across the stage of my high school graduation, and a lot has changed in those seven years. I’ve learned a lot about people, but most importantly, I discovered my true self.

I don’t live with any regrets in life, but there are some things I wish I would have recognized sooner rather than later, but hey, that’s just part of the journey. If I could go back to when I was 18 years old, I would tell my young, naive, and arrogant self a few things:

  1. Develop Healthy Eating Habits
  2. Value Time
  3. Leave Toxic Relationships
  4. Read

 

Develop Healthy Eating Habits

 

Develop Healthy Eating Habits
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Up until you move out of your parents’ house, you will most likely eat whatever the hell your school or parents have for you that day. Unfortunately, most bad eating habits get passed down from generation to generation, and not all parents know what’s best, especially when it comes to nutrition. In today’s society, young children/adults can get by with eating whatever’s in front of their faces because either a.) they are in their youth, b.) physically active, or c.) have higher metabolisms (and all three can be related).

Once you move out and are on your own, everything changes.

Your health is in your own hands now. You control what food you buy, what you cook, and what you put in your mouth.

Some peoples’ worst eating habits begin when they are on their own, especially in college. Two studies were done, one at the university of Indiana and one at a private university in Rhode Island, which totaled 1,286 students. 77% of Study 1 and 70% of Study 2 gained weight their freshman years (mostly in their first semester) and continued to gain weight into their 2nd year. Obesity rates increased from 21.6% to 36% (Study 1) and from 14.6% to 17.8% (Study 2) by the end of their freshman year.

Take control of your eating habits as soon as possible. I promise you it’s a lot harder to lose weight, than to gain it.

Value Time

 

Value Time
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Time is more valuable than money, more valuable than any resource, and more valuable than any vast amounts of prime real estate. You can’t control time. Time doesn’t speed up or slow down, and time doesn’t stop for anyone. Time doesn’t judge, and time doesn’t have its favorites. But once time is lost, there’s no getting it back. Time is precious, and it’s a shame so many people take it for granted.

Your time management skills begin with your parents and how they raised you. Week after week, day after day, you were learning (or not) time management. If you’ve been wasting time and not where you want to be in life, take responsibility and start making the most of your time NOW!

From the great Jordan Peterson (I highly recommend his YouTube lectures), “Make a damn schedule!”. Schedules aren’t designed to make you miserable but enable you to get the most out of your day. With a schedule, you get the day you want!

If used correctly, schedules allow you to become more time efficient. You should be striving to become as time efficient as possible. Look up some of your favorite successful mentors, and I guarantee they make the most of their time; sometimes it’s hard to wrap your head around!

 

Leave Toxic Relationships

 

Leave Toxic Relationships
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We all look back at life and wonder why we never left those toxic relationship sooner than we did. Whether it’s family, friends, or significant others, you’re bound to run into toxic people and hold onto these relationships in your young adult years.

With toxic relationships, I now live by one rule, and one rule only:

If they set you back from your goals or negatively impact your life, let them go.

Ask yourself: Does this person really feel happy for me when I succeed? If you hesitate for a second, it’s most likely time to cut ties with that person.

And don’t look back because life’s way too short. Toxic relationships waste your priceless time and valuable energy, mainly on them. Become the best version of yourself and make the people around you live up to your standards.

It’s critical to start noticing who you spend the majority of your time with in your young adult years. A lot will happen between the ages of 18-25, so it’s crucial to have a good social circle around you.

But if any toxic relationships do drag out longer than it should (and it most likely will), don’t let it go to waste, and most importantly don’t let it happen again. Learn from your past mistakes and keep on improving.

 

Read

 

Read
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Consistent reading daily is a habit I wish I would have picked up when I was much younger. If reading wasn’t a hobby for you growing up, then the only reading you might have done was through primary education and college. The downside is that you don’t have a choice on what books you read, but I guess some reading is better than no reading. Another downside is that a lot of these school textbooks are either a.) not in much detail, or b.) spoken from only one point of view.

In my opinion, the importance of reading doesn’t become highly valuable until you’re on your own deciding which books YOU want to read, and not what’s forced upon you. Change your thought process and read about similar topics from different, yet sometimes contradicting perspectives.

The most common excuse people use for not reading is that they don’t have enough time. I call BS. You have plenty of time, 24 hours a day to be exact. People aren’t efficient with their time. Make a schedule and incorporate at least 30 minutes a day into reading whatever YOU want.

 

We are young. Take risks, and live your life without regrets. Mistakes and failures are bound to happen. But is it a failure if you learn from it? Keep pushing to become the best YOU and strive to improve 1% DAILY!

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“You live only once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”

 

Book of the Month:                       “Ordinary Men: Reserve Police Battalion 101 and the Final Solution in Poland” by Mark Manson

 

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