Good ole’ online dating. If you’re currently in a relationship/married and haven’t had the life altering opportunity to use multiple online dating tools, all at once, then you’re missing out…..
Sike! Online dating can be a pain in the ass.
Obviously I come from a male’s perspective, but I think most peoples’ opinions are somewhat similar. I’ve decided to start a new series called, “The Tinder Games”. My plan is to research (and try out for myself) different online dating topics to see what this relatively new dating tool is all about! Reader recommendations are highly encouraged.
This week’s topic discusses the effectiveness of online dating platforms. After doing some research, two statistics from the Pew Research Center stood out:
- 1/3 of people who use online dating tools have never gone on a single date using these sites.
- Only 5% of Americans who are either married and in a committed relationship say they met their significant other online.
Strange that something so popular isn’t doing what its intended to do. We know plenty of people who currently or previously used online dating tools, so why are these numbers the way they are? Time to investigate this topic and decide whether online dating is a useful dating strategy!
Online Dating Results Don’t Lie
Let’s face it, young people don’t take online dating seriously at all. Most guys go through multiple profiles and don’t bother looking at ANYTHING! It’s just a numbers game for men. Is there a reason for the not so seriousness taken?
Of course there is. First off, let’s not forget that if you do decide to meet up, it’ll be with a total stranger (regardless of how much texting or Skyping/FaceTiming goes on beforehand). Most people are highly skeptical of this, which is why many never actually meet up in the first place. Another issue is that people lie all the time on their online dating profiles. Whether it’s looks, age, weight, height, or status in society, people lie. A study done by OpinionMatters found that 53% of online daters in the U.S. lied on their online dating profile. What a phenomenal way to begin a relationship! Meeting an unknown person face to face for the first time will always cause a large number of online daters to never put forth any action and actually meet up.
You look at the 5% value in the introduction of this post and figured it seemed sort of low. It could be due to the fact that people aren’t fond of admitting they met online! Let’s round up and say it’s 20% (not realistic at all, but it’ll do). That’s still an extremely low value. Why so low though?
You get a match, read their profile, and see their pictures. You then create a fantasy/mental image of what they’re like, and what they look like since you’ve never met them before in person! Within seconds of your meetup, you’re going to be highly disappointed. Most of the time your date never meets your expectations of them! I believe this is the reason most first dates never escalate to second dates, thus relationships never forming.
By far the biggest issue with online dating is that it offers so much selection. Countless studies have shown that there are negative consequences of having too many choices and online dating is no exception. Too much choice results in:
- Decreased commitment (a.k.a flaking on dates and lack of responses).
- Decision fatigue (weakens your decision-making skills), which results in a higher possibility of bad choices.
- People searching for their fairy-tale “perfect one”.
So, should I ignore the popular trend and not use online dating tools?
Should I Get To Swiping?
Sure, go ahead and use online dating tools. Just don’t invest too much time and energy into online dating. Creating a better version of yourself will ultimately lead you to a better dating life, if you apply yourself.
But be careful. Not only are you meeting total strangers for the first time, but online dating scams are increasing proportionally as online dating becomes more common. Online dating scams are second only to investment scams when it comes to money lost from online scamming!
Some advice for the fellas: don’t get down if you’re not a hot commodity in the online dating world. A study done by OkCupid states that women in their survey find 80% of men less than average looking from their online dating pictures. Most guys aren’t too photogenic in the first place, so don’t worry about it! Work on bettering every aspect of your life instead.
And for the ladies: you rule the online dating scene and will continue to do so. Most women usually have men constantly talking to them via online dating, so enjoy the company!
Hope you enjoyed this week’s post! The next “Tinder Games” post will go over the reality of online dating profile pictures! Recommendations are very much encouraged! If you’ve missed last week’s post, then check it out here! Don’t forget to like, comment, share, and subscribe!
“If we meet offline and you look nothing like your pics, you’re buying me drinks until you do.”
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